Postpone Your Panic

Today we continue to explore Mary Morrissey’s seminar on building your dreams.  As a coach and NLP practitioner myself, I particularly love this next concept and use it during client sessions because it will bring up so much resistance when you first even dare to consider it, yet the rewards when you follow this technique could literally turn your life around. So: suspend your judgement for a moment and dive right in…

Imagine if you will that every single circumstance in your life is neutral – it only becomes good or bad when you decide it is so. Hang on a minute, I hear you cry. What about all the bad things that happened to me?The fact is, nobody can tell you not to have an opinion and when the dust has settled, maybe then you’ll be in a position to work out what you really think. Now, and just for now, you can just press your internal “PAUSE” button. You can postpone your panic until you’ve had some time to live with the aftermath of the event. Try waiting for a few days and then consider how you might use this circumstance to leverage your greater good. Perhaps  there’s a lesson here, something you were meant to learn that could change your whole life for the better. The great payoff here in terms of your emotional well-being is that you don’t have to wait for a condition to change in order to feel better – you can start right now.

“THE SINGLE MUM’S SURVIVAL GUIDE – How To Pick Up The Pieces And Build a Happy New Life” is available to order on Amazon and hits the shops on 1st July. Visit my website,

Into Every Life Some Rain Must Fall

It’s been a strange sort of day here – cold one minute, hot the next, periods of brilliant sunshine interspersed with showers or on occasion (as was the case when I walked my dog) both at the same time! It  reminded me of life in general, not to mention the expression “Into every life some rain must fall”. When I think about the single mums I know (many of whose stories feature in my book) and even my own experiences as a single mother, it wouldn’t just be a case of some rain falling…it could better be described as a flood or even a tidal wave some days! So how, exactly, does one learn how to weather the storm?  It’s one of the main reasons that I wrote the book and also why I trained as an NLP and hypnosis practitioner. Once I had made it through to the other side I wanted to reach back and help other single mums through. Like my walk today – sometimes you can’t see the rainbow but you need to learn to trust that it will be there and that’s where I come in!

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Is Chocolate a Single Mum’s Best Friend?

As Easter approaches, the chocoholics among us who try to eat healthily the rest of the time are presented with a dilemma. Your internal dialogue might perhaps sound something like this: “I know it’s Easter and chocolate is everywhere, but the more I eat the more I want, so this year I’m going to be really sensible and ask everyone not to tempt me. Easter eggs are for the children, after all and I can always “regift” them if someone gives me some chocolates. Just think how virtuous I’ll feel….On the other hand, I do really BADLY want some of that chocolate. And I have had a really tough day! Just one mini egg won’t do any harm and it would be rude not to, wouldn’t it? Mmm, that tasted good. I wonder what the other fillings taste like? Maybe the best thing is just to finish these up now and then there won’t be any left to tempt me (until the next time)”…

Here’s an extract from my book, “THE SINGLE MUM’S SURVIVAL GUIDE” about comfort eating:

We all know about the downside of the sugar rush–the sugar low you get afterwards. Eating too many high carbohydrate-rich or processed foods, or consuming too many sugary drinks or foods can leave you feeling sleepy, sluggish and downhearted. Most of us single Mums have succumbed to comfort eating at some point and the occasional treat is perfectly fine but take it from me, it makes you feel so much worse in the long run and you can get onto a slippery slope which is hard to get off. Before you take a bite, ask yourself first: am I actually thirsty, instead of hungry? How will this feel as it slides into my stomach – not just now but for the rest of the day? Will eating it make both my body and mind feel good in the long run? If the answer is no, consider working out which emotion is eating you, step away from the food and spend a little time paying attention to nourishing your soul and spirit instead.

For those of you who are totally out of control around chocolate, one coaching session with me will sort that out. There’s a wonderful NLP technique called “Like to Dislike” which could convert your addiction to chocolate to a total aversion. Just ask my clients – where you see a piece of delicious, creamy, smooth milk chocolate they now see something which wouldn’t tempt them in a million years! To book your session, please use the contact form below. The session can be in person or via Skype, so distance is no problem.