Add Some Colour To The Sea Of Grey

I attended a business networking lunch today. Part of my coaching business includes advising people on the colours (and styles) that suit them best; it’s an aspect of my job I love and it’s something I’ve been doing for nearly twenty years now. Dressed in violet, which is one of my best colours (I’m a Spring, for those of you who know about all this), I scanned the room to find some other colour amidst the sea of grey and black that constitutes so many business wardrobes in the UK. Spotting a woman in a coral jacket, I immediately went over to strike up a conversation. Coincidentally, we were seated on the same table for lunch and as we took our seats we were joined by another colourful character – a nattily-dressed architect in a bright yellow shirt! We got talking and discovered that we all felt strongly that people should express themselves a little more freely and that adding a touch of colour to a business wardrobe would add impact and make people stand out from the crowd. On the way home I continued to ponder the confidence that wearing the right colours can give you.

I remember when my ex husband first broke the news to me that he was planning to leave us. I remember that at a time when my heart was breaking and I felt like melting into a grey puddle of heartbreak on the floor, all my years of training kicked in and I made a special effort on each of those dark early days of single motherhood to wear my best colours, to put a bit of make-up on and to present myself to the world as an elegant and glamorous woman, not the drab and dishevelled victim. The funny thing is, my (ex) husband -distracted as he was with his impending new life-actually noticed and commented several times how attractive I was looking in that surreal period before he finally left. I wasn’t doing it for him. I was doing it as a way of making myself hold my head up high, of showing myself and the world that I was a woman of substance and to add some colour to a world that was then so dark and grey. I would urge all single mums to give themselves that gift.

My book, “THE SINGLE MUM’S SURVIVAL GUIDE – How To Pick Up The Pieces and Build a Happy New Life” is available to order now on Amazon and hits the shops on 1st July. For more details about my Colour Confidence Coaching, visit my website: http://www.thelifeyoudeserve.co.uk.

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Time to shine

As a mother, you know how easy it can be to put the family’s needs before your own until the day comes when you realise that ¬†you are now way down at the bottom of a long list of priorities. Your own personal ¬†appearance and grooming can be hard to find time for when you have to worry about everybody else’s. Besides, who has time for all that when you are a single mother? And yet, after some 20 years of giving advice on colour and style, I can honestly say it’s not about spending a long time – after all: getting dressed in the right clothes takes the same amount of time as getting dressed in the wrong clothes – it’s more about knowing what really works for you, fits and flatters you. The difference – not just in how much better you look, but also in how much better you feel can be like night and day. I recently worked with a client who had long hidden herself under layers of extra flesh, covered by layers of baggy clothes. Everyone agreed that she was a lovely woman with a warm heart and a good sense of humour – a real rock for all the family and in many ways the one who kept them all on track. As a young girl she’d been a real knockout and loved clothes and shopping. But after years in an abusive relationship she’d found a way to hide herself under that excess weight and those layers of clothes.Her hair, though long and thick, was tied back in a pony tail and she hadn’t seen a hairdresser in 4 years. By the end of the session she’d rediscovered her joie de vivre and was heading home to book her cut and colour that very week and swap her grey tinted, purple framed glasses for some with a warm tint and tortoiseshell frames. As for the muted mauve T shirt she came in? That would soon be replaced by shades of violet, aquamarine, leaf green and corn yellow. She said that her new colours made her feel happy and we all saw how they lit up her complexion and made her eyes stand out. I s this woman going to feel more confident and more able to deal with whatever life has in store for her? Most definitely! Can she be an inspiration to her children and others by looking good and having fun with her look, even on a tight budget? You bet!

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