As you know, I’m a great believer in pushing yourself out of your comfort zone when you’re feeling strong enough but sometimes when you are trying to turn your life around – especially when it’s a struggle to imagine how it’s ever going to work out – it’s too daunting if you try and see the whole picture all at once. When I think back to those bleak days when I first had single motherhood foisted on me, everything seemed a terrible effort and nothing was certain – my finances, my feelings, my future – everything seemed upside down and jumbled up (as indeed it was). In situations like this just having one or two small goals for the day are probably enough. Apart from getting yourself and the children up and fed and off to school, work or whatever you have planned for the day, it might be enough just to sort one box of things out, or make two important phone calls – or get through a visit to the supermarket without breaking down in floods of tears at the sight of a happy family or a couple walking hand in hand. Be gentle on yourself; you may still be traumatised and in shock. Conquering the world might have to be shelved until next week but for now just love and be good to yourself and your children and take it one day at a time.
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